How are you?

When someone says “how are you?“, and gives you “that look”, I wonder what they want to hear.

Do they actually want to hear…

“I have cancer and the treatment is causing horrific fatigue where I can barely make it up the stairs without stopping to take a breath..

Also when I am awake (which is rarely) I struggle to concentrate on anything at all. There is not a moment where I’m not thinking how long have I got left and how long have I got to put up with this. ..

I struggle to do things I like and am depressed most of the time now. ..

My treatment is allowing me to stay alive longer but I’m not actually living, I’m merely existing…

I more often wonder if I should just stop all treatment and just get it over with…

Quite frankly I’ve had enough…

But thanks for asking!”

Or is “I’m doing ok thank you” good enough.

Comments

3 responses to “How are you?”

  1. kimdavisuk avatar
    kimdavisuk

    Keep writing then deleting long comments with questions/ suggestions about how to find your way through the darkness. But you’ve probably heard it and given all the answers before, so will just say…
    Please hang in there Steve x

  2. Karen avatar
    Karen

    I’m just one person, but when I ask this question I genuinely want the truth.
    I’d hate to think anyone felt they had to say “fine” out of politeness but I do understand that sometimes we just can’t be arsed or don’t t know where to begin..😩

  3. Karen avatar
    Karen

    I’m just one person, but when I ask this question I genuinely want the truth.
    I’d hate to think anyone felt they had to say “fine” out of politeness but I do understand that sometimes we just can’t be arsed or don’t t know where to begin..😩

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